What's the difference between a performative male and a guy who reads? Is there one, or is all male pro-social behaviour a manipulative tactic? The fact that we have to ask speaks to deeper horrors.
I love this discussion! My husband also fits 'the aesthetic hallmarks of the meme'. I've watched people (usually straight white men) scoff at his painted nails or they assume that I've done it to him, and at first he felt the need to defend it, but it's turned into a great conversation starter about how we view gender, how it's performed and policed, and why their automatic reaction was to be judgemental. He just thinks it's neat to have painted nails! But we also both enjoy the memes, we are laughing at the extent these fuckboys will go to to get in her pants (becuase it's terrifying), not the interest or joy found in things stereotypically feminine. But is that what everyone else is finding funny here?
I think most people are indeed laughing at men who put on a fake personality for hook ups! But I guess my contention is, how long would they have to perform being a soft boi before they just are one lol. like what is real and not real and does it matter!!! it reminds me of the bachelor "she's here for the wrong reasons" drama that would happen every year because it implies that there are right reasons and then we all begin policing each other's intentions, which are inherently impossible to prove. Anyway I feel like I'm rambling now. Much to think about!!!!
I love this discussion! My husband also fits 'the aesthetic hallmarks of the meme'. I've watched people (usually straight white men) scoff at his painted nails or they assume that I've done it to him, and at first he felt the need to defend it, but it's turned into a great conversation starter about how we view gender, how it's performed and policed, and why their automatic reaction was to be judgemental. He just thinks it's neat to have painted nails! But we also both enjoy the memes, we are laughing at the extent these fuckboys will go to to get in her pants (becuase it's terrifying), not the interest or joy found in things stereotypically feminine. But is that what everyone else is finding funny here?
I think most people are indeed laughing at men who put on a fake personality for hook ups! But I guess my contention is, how long would they have to perform being a soft boi before they just are one lol. like what is real and not real and does it matter!!! it reminds me of the bachelor "she's here for the wrong reasons" drama that would happen every year because it implies that there are right reasons and then we all begin policing each other's intentions, which are inherently impossible to prove. Anyway I feel like I'm rambling now. Much to think about!!!!